The "Sincerity Marriage" Concept

What is a sincerity marriage?

  • A "Sincerity Marriage" is a greater expression love and sincerity than current unprotected marriages allow.
  • A "Sincerity Marriage" is backed up with premarital assessments and preparation.
  • A "Sincerity Marriage" uses prenuptial agreements to protect the faithful and their children from robbery and deprivation of fundamental rights should one spouse become abusive or unfaithful.
  • A "Sincerity Marriage" strives to align attorneys with saving marriages rather than destroying them. Attorneys hold responsibility for the enforceability of their prenuptial agreements they make.
  • If you are interested in being involved in this and contributing ideas Please visit the Sincerity Marriage Webform at No-Divorces.org

Brainstorming ideas on the Sincerity Marriage Development

I have had some positive response including one from an attorney on the Sincerity Marriage Concept, and I feel confident if people get involved it cannot possibly fail, and I fully expect to see it shake up the world.

The concept is to use prenuptial agreements to give people freedom to set their own level of marital commitment protecting the innocent spouse and the children from loss.

Common Marriage Breakers
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Anger mismanagement
Verbal/Emotional Abuse — power struggles
Unfaithfulness, lust, porn addiction, etc.
Alcohol and Drug Abuse
Gambling, Financial Irresponsibility
Workaholicism
Religious differences/expectations
In-laws - conflict in family cultures, traditions
Nagging, bullying, complaining
Attitude struggles, negative expectations
"More of the same" habits
Educational differences, financial differences
Culture/Language differences
Preferences on where to live
Career vs living at home questions
Freedom to express feelings, preferences
Codependencies - previous abusive relationships, heartbreaks
Morality and ethics differences–lying, stealing, R-rated movies, etc.
Division of labor quarrels.
Child discipline conflicts
Sleeping hours - when and how to deal with conflict.
Birth control methods, planning
Differences in frequency and type of sexual activity prefered.

Prevention Skills and Habits
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Active Listening Skills training
Healthy Boundary Development Course
1,000 Questions for Couples or similar
Church Premarital Counseling
Background Check for marriages/divorces/lefal/financial issues
VD/STD testing
Review communications issues and work on improving communication
Try to identify bad habits and replace/overcome them solidly before
marriage
Identify and establish healthy daily rituals/traditions. Prayer bf
meals, nite.
Identify regular outings, holiday plans, church activities, weekend
outings.
Identify effective sources of marital help, counseling should there
be a need for yourself or for others.
Get sign off from counselor, minister, family members
Identify those who might be in disagreement, what effect this might
have on the marriage, and how best to deal with it.
Take several parenting classes for each phase before your children
reach that age and perhaps after for improvement.
Premarital assessment perhaps with a statistical assessment of
viability of a marriage and identification of what level of viability
may be required for a given sincerity level, and establish a
plan/procedure to raise level of viability.

Remedies
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I Still Do Conference, Retrouvaille, Divorce Busting KLA/MB
Alcoholics/Narcotics/Codependency Anonymous, etc.
Moving to a different city/state if there's an affair
Jail/halfway house/anger management training and mastery
Identify a source of marriage saving counseling
Child discipline method conflicts - plan for

Consequences
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For adultery, moving out of state or country with the children to end
the affair and prevent recurrence.
Jail if necessary for proved violence and possibly for adultery if
allowed.
For divorce, loss of primary child custody. It is immoral,
unethical, cruel, injust, incompetent, indecent, and insane to force
the faithful and their children to endure forced separation without
proof of substantial abuse. The abusive and unfaithful should bear
this burden when they choose to destroy the marriage.
For divorce, loss of shared house and shared property. It is
unethical, cruel, foolish, irresponsible, and immoral to force this
upon the innocent and their children the way we do
Attorney/Insurance company will provide defense of the covenant and
where the innocent cannot be protected from loss by provisions of the
covenant, the attorney/insurance company will make restitution for
losses to the innocent party and require reimbursement from the
guilty party.
Public service that helps develop the character quality needed.
Temporary separation with accountability during training and
assessment.

Team - Service Providers - Ministers
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Attorney - insure validity and enforcability and completeness of
prenuptial/antenuptial agreement
Pastors/Churches/Denominations/Independent Church Accountability
Organizations - to suggest requirements which may be applied to
different sincerity levels, establish requirements for church
weddings, church membership, or ministry at various levels in the
church.
Counselors, coaches, educators - to provide specific training and
assessment pertenant to phase or in response to a marital problem.
Evaluate the stability of a parent or child and recomment assisstance
needed to be approved of by the spouse not considered at fault.
Recording of sincerity marriage plan and prenuptials to assure
completeness of filings, etc.
Web Site Owner - me - provide a method to store line items that
attorneys can enter to track enforceability within jurisdictions,
dates of validity, revisions, with preference for generality of
enforceability w/ modifications, but with a minimal of modifications
required. Simplification of creation of healthy prenuptial
agreement. Simplification of assurance of completion. Dependencies
of line items on other line items. The goal is to provide attorneys
everywhere with a simple way to cooperate, assure completeness, and
enforceability while providing the ordinary citizen an easy way to
choose a standard prenuptial for any given level and add
modifications consisting only of additions and not exclusions.
Database of team members - attorneys, pastors, counselors.

Classification of line items for prenuptial agreements
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Protection of the marriage covenant.
Protection of the family unit's family rights
Protection of the family unit's shared property
Protection of the family unit's future income
Protection from failure of enforceability - compensation source
Provision of attorney, counselors, pastors, those who assist.
Provision of effective problem resolution to save the marriage.
Permission for family to extend grace to offending party temporary
without incurring obligations and permanent loss for the well being
of all concerned.
Assessment of status of previous marriages and how they ended and
what is allowed at each sincerity level to prevent adulterous or
polygamous marriages.
Multi-lingual support to allow for translations after initial
agreements have matured and solidified.

Project Plan
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Identify Board of Directors - team players - review board
Provide initial design to the team and request suggestions.
Recruit attorneys, pastors, counselors, recruiters.
Build web site framework and database design.
Financial support - critical!!!!!

On the War Path
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Wedding License costs to support this - reduce costs for higher
levels.
A fund for suing and recovering costs from "married-but-looking"
services or matchmaking services that do nothing to make sure the
people are not already married.
A fund for suing extramarital lover for alienation of affection.
A fund for unknowing "other woman" or "other man" to sue the
unfaithful spouse for emotional abuse and distress.
Publicity alignment - Identification of organizations that may be
favorable or opposed to this effort. Establish the organizations key
mission, and honor those in that organization that support our
efforts showing how it contributes to the cause of their mission.
And for those who oppose our efforts, be civil and professional how
their actions and decisions run counter to the cause of their
mission. Most people and organizations would not intentionally work
to destroy families and make the innocent and their children suffer
injustice. Identify and honor those who support this effort
financially and with social involvement.
Project evangelism - setting up a recruitment process, recruitment of
pastors, attorneys, organizations, Kiwanis, Rotary, Christian
organizations, counselors.