The notion of a Sincerity Marriage is a very important concept.

The basic meaning of it is that the marriage is to be what it was meant to be, and that is sincere, binding, and protective of the interests and rights and property and security of the family.

Bottom line is that a Sincerity Marriage is a marriage that is sincere. That is, it makes promises it intends to keep, and so much as the government will permit it, the Sincerity Marriage tries to back up those promises with accountability, and where the government doesn't allow this, it seeks to bring pressure to bear on those who strive to destroy this basic human right.

Sincerity Marriage is rooted in premarital preparation.

Notice I did not say "wedding preparation". This is not about choosing a wedding gown or tuxedo or place to have the reception and such. This is premarital preparation for marriage.

What is the difference between being boyfriend/girlfriend and being married? Right off, the first thing you and I probably think of is that the commitment is a whole lot deeper and more serious. It's supposed to be for life. But, what if over half of the marriages end in divorce? If that is so, then what is the difference between being married and merely shacking up and living in sin?

The difference is promise. When couples live together sexually without being married, they're said to be living in sin. But, what if they do so after entering into a promise that they have no intention of keeping? Isn't that even more sinful? Isn't it lying to God to make such a promise with the thought that if it doesn't work out, we can just end it in divorce? Isn't it lying to God to say we believe in marriage if we only believe in the outward appearance and empty promises? Wouldn't that make us liars, cowards and swindlers to offer up such a false facade of holiness without the sincerity behind it?

A Sincerity Marriage is a Real Marriage

A sincerity marriage is one where the couple mean it when they say they are committed. They make prenuptial agreements that specify in writing their intention to bind themselves, to state clearly that they denounce and renounce the notion that any person or government has any right to deprive a family of their right to live together in love and peace and enjoy the shared home and assets of that family. There is a prenuptial agreement that states that the couple recognize all shared family property as property of the couple and not of any one individual, and that should the family be broken by adultery or abuse or an unjustly forced divorce, that the house, the property, and the children would stay with the faithful spouse no matter what, that there would be no division of property, and that there would be no loss of obligation to support the family on the part of the spouse who was found to be at fault.

In short, the promise of marriage would be to love and cherish and seek the well being of the family and that all rights to destroy that family by violence or unfaithfulness would be denounced and renounced by both spouses.

A sincerity marriage considers and weighs the cost and depth and meaning of such an agreement over time and works through a set of questions and tests to show they have a clear understanding of what these promises mean and what they require. The couple knows going into the marriage what the consequences of such sinful behavior will be, and they agree to accept the specified consequences for such behavior.

That is the basic level of a sincerity marriage.

Beyond that there would be a plan of action specified for various conflicts that may occur in marriage. Counselors acceptable to both spouses would be specified prior to marriage to be changed only by mutual agreement.

Before a pastor would bless a marriage, there would be premarital counseling with questions designed to allow the couple to discuss things that are important in marriage and issues that often cause problems in marriage. This has a two fold purpose. One purpose is to identify any deal breakers that would make it impossible or unwise for a marriage to be entered into and survive. But, the primary goal is not so much to prevent bad marriages from taking place as to help the couple plan ahead for the potential conflicts to come and become prepared to handle them competently in a healthy manner.

So, in closing, the Sincerity Marriage helps prepare couples for success in marriage rather than just throwing them into marriage without a clue of what it really means to be married for life.

Follow up reading:
1,000 Questions for Couples

This e-book is fun. It is definitely worth getting for any couple considering marriage. Whether you are getting married or one of your children or friends or siblings are getting married, I recommend this e-book very strongly. It is believed that a high percent of divorces could be prevented with this kind of premarital preparation.

50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships

I recommend this for married couples, but also for couples considering marriage. In fact, I would recommend getting into this e-book prior to finding your life partner in marriage. The reason this is so important is that it can help you get into the mindset of how to succeed in marriage.

When people wait until crisis happens to get help, they bring pain and injuries into the marriage that take time to heal. Healing is almost never instant and it almost always leaves scars just as any serious physical injury might. It is better if you can have a joyful, successful marriage from the beginning. And, yet, it is so much better if you can get started with this before marriage and have a great, healthy courtship before marriage.

I cannot stress the importance of having a good, healthy courtship. It sets up the pattern, habits, and expectations for marriage. Usually the 50 Secrets book above comes with an additional book called 50 More Secrets of Blissful Relationships. I recommend printing these off and putting them into a binder and reading them and making sure to apply what you learn to your life. Share these with your loved ones. Model these in your life for your children and for your loved ones.

Michael Webb's Relationship Collection

This is a collection of several e-books, audio files, and such that cover almost every aspect of relationships from looking for a partner to courtship to popping the question, to the 1000 questions above, to the 50 secrets of blissful relationships books, and even e-books covering the tragic situations that arise in marriage related to affairs and divorce and how to deal with those and save the marriage in crisis if possible.