Divorce is intensely abusive to the faithful spouses and their children.

The way our family court system abuses faithful spouses and their children is not something decent citizens can tolerate, and yet 2.2 million people under 35 suffer through an agonizing divorce each year. But this is so profitable for the legal community that it is no wonder the unfaithful enjoy rewards while the faithful and the children suffer great emotional torment.

Family courts begin by threatening everything precious to the children and their faithful parents. Once these victims are swooning in distress and legal fears, they are desperate and willing to throw tens or hundreds of dollars in protection money at the nearest available attorney, and not unlike the Mafia, the attorney takes it.

Having ransacked our life savings, endangering the innocent proves quite profitable. So, what motive is there for attorneys to deliver on their promises to protect? Little or none. As long as the people believe in the family court system, they will consider an unjust ruling a fluke. Since the faithful love their children and their families more, they will spend a lot more money to fight to win, especially if they carry the feeling in their hearts that they should win. They feel they must fight for what is right for the sake of their children and for the sake of society. But, fight is rigged from the start.

Now that the faithful and their children are deprived of their right to live together and enjoy the shared family resources, their children are taken away to be put into a brothel of adultery, and the faithful spouse is further robbed in the name of spousal and child support. This intensifies feelings of injustice and the drive to hire an attorney to fight.

Health Effects of Divorce on the Faithful and Their Children

Countless faithful spouses find themselves unable to work, unable to think, dazed, in a state of shock. Memory suffers, and the ability to reason, make judgments, or concentrate is destroyed. Nerve damage takes place. Clinical depression, anxiety disorders, agoraphobia and such develop, and the faithful spouse finds himself or herself destroyed careerwise.

And, then if this is not enough, the faithful spouse is dragged into court and stared down by a judge demanding a reason why he or she cannot work and earn what was earned before and why back support payments should not be assessed at the full rate with interest.

This is not the way to treat faithful parents and faithful spouses.

If America is going to do this to the faithful and their children, America had better be willing to pay the consequences and cover mental health costs, medical costs, cost of career losses, counseling costs, and cover the losses that this family court system causes. It is not fair for the courts to shelter the unfaithful from this cost unless it is willing to cover the costs itself. It is cowardice and injustice and robbery to foist this cost off onto the faithful and their children. This is not the behavior of a responsible and decent government.

Today, we complain and judge when someone like Darren Mack kills his wife and shoots a judge but how much do we contribute to this evil when we support this kind of no-fault divorce and allow it to remain within our nation? What we need is not more protection for judges and their families but more justice for the people so that judges won't be so bitterly hated for the acts of stupidity and injustice that destroys children and their faithful parents to promote adultery.

Today, we have high suicide rates among children and adults, and most of it is related to the breakdown of the family. So, how do we solve it? By helping save marriages? By getting rid of these stupid no-fault divorce laws? No. By building suicide barriers around buildings and bridges and such and making laws against suicide. How about helping to keep people from wanting to commit suicide? People who kill themselves don't want to die. They want the pain to stop and they have lost hope of finding any other way to make that happen.

Be intelligent. How many faithful, loving people want to commit themselves to love somebody just to be betrayed, robbed, deprived of children and home, forced to move, and forced to work to provide luxury for the unfaithful kidnappers of their children?

How many children want to grow up in a broken home and be reminded that love is temporary, that faithfulness can result in torment from the unfaithful and from the court system? How many people want to lose hope this way?

In my divorce, when I found myself unable to force myself to concentrate, when I found I could no longer do my job as a chief system architect and director of information technology, I took a break from my career to try to help save my family and build these web sites.

Several years later, I felt such a desire to go back to work that I tried, and immediately, my ex-wife was dragging me into court for money and for full custody of our daughter. I had not even come close to healing from the earlier blows, but my ability to concentrate shut down again immediately. This was particularly sad because I had worked hard to get back to where I could perform these complex updates of customer systems. Just when I was beginning to feel competent and skilled, this stressor hit and I found myself staring at the screen once again unaware of what I was doing. Fortunately, my contract was almost done, and in spite of documentation from my doctor of this condition, the judge stared into my eyes asking me why I felt disabled.

But, why? Why should this be difficult to understand? My sister found herself on anti-depressants after her husband left her for another woman. My dad's cousin also was on anti-depressants having experienced something similar. Countless people are tormented with stress from this family court terrorism. Why is it surprising each and every time the normal, expected thing happens?

Many people feel the primary reason divorce rates are so high and so many marriages are so miserable is

• The courts will make the faithful and the children bear the pain for the faithful
• Punishing faithful spouses gives abusive spouses incentives to be adulterous
• Injustice like this destabilizes marriages by making spouses more suspicious and insecure
• Insecurity encourages spouses to find affair partners for fear of being alone

So, our divorce system encourages divorce and drives up divorce rates. Our family court system destroys families of little children for money.

Everybody who loves children and who believes in true, faithful love, will oppose unilateral no-fault divorce laws as vigorously as they can.