divorce advice

Whether parents are faithful or not, children have needs. And, regardless of who is at fault in a divorce, both parents are responsible for meeting the children's needs.

Over and over I feel brought back to face the central issue of what is behind failure and success in marriage, and I cannot escape the fact that at the root of every divorce is selfishness, unfaithful

A thought:

Bitterness will make you burn down your own house just to kill one rat.

Hebrews 12:15

... Billy

Comments by Dan below
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Billy, thank you for that message. This comment is so appropriate.

So often when we become the victims of divorce and adultery or abuse, it is so easy to fall prey to bitterness and revenge and become enslaved by it. It is very hard to accept that there is injustice in this world, and we're disappointed and threatened when we encounter it because if our country cannot be trusted to handle the issue of marital faithfulness with any integrity or decency, how can we feel any affection or security at all with our nation?

Thankfulness can save a marriage. My pastor once quoted someone who said, "He who is not thankful for little is not worthy to receive much."

Some say marriage is the union between a man and a woman, but what is the difference between being married and shacking up?

What is marriage, really?
Is it when a couple wears a white dress and tuxedo in church and says their vows? Are they married if a red or blue dress or tuxedo is worn?

Is it when vows are exchanged? Does there have to be a priest or pastor or religious leader to make a marriage valid?

Are a couple married when the marriage license is signed? Prior to the first governmental marriage license were all couples unmarried and living in sin?

Were Adam and Eve married? If not, then why did God tell them to be fruitful and multiply?